Author Archives: Ian

blah blah blah

I can talk (and write) at length. Not infrequently at far greater length than is strictly necessary to convey my point. So I’m going to try going to the other extreme here, for this one post: minimalism. Here’s the essence of … Continue reading

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my, how things change

I spent this weekend at a Shalom Retreat, and – with mindfulness, practice, and determination – nothing will ever be quite the same for me again. This is at least as true for the ways in which I relate to … Continue reading

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i like the idea of a crazy girlfriend

Which is not to say I’m looking for a crazy girlfriend; I’m not. I’m not looking for any girlfriend at all right now, as I have one girlfriend already with whom I am thrilled and delighted and quite happily in … Continue reading

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well…

It’s been a long time since I posted to this blog, and I’m not actually posting now, except to say, “Sorry it’s been so long since I posted and that I’m not even really posting now.” I love this blog … Continue reading

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acceptance

I’m often reading several books at once, and my current rotation includes Vagina: A New Biography, by Naomi Wolf, in which the author asserts that “understanding the brain-vagina connection…is not merely a key to more transformative sex for women – it … Continue reading

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the uselessness of wealth without women

I’ve thought for a long time that few straight men would have reason to do anything at all if not for their desires to please, impress, and attract women, so I was pleased to discover that Napoleon Hill concurs.  This, … Continue reading

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overheard

Last night at my favorite Indian restaurant I was delighted to hear one man at the next table say to his (male) dining companion, very matter-of-factly, with no hint of either jocularity or complaint: “She lets me drive occasionally. If … Continue reading

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sexual power for women

I think I’ve seen this beautifully-written book before; it feels familiar. If so, I’m much more interested in it – and in propagating it – now than I was before. May every woman with a sexual interest in men learn … Continue reading

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penelope’s new year’s gift to us

The Great And Powerful Penelope Trunk just gave her readers a New Year’s gift, and I’d like to pass it along to mine: Because You Asked about the Line between Prose and Poetry By Howard Nemerov  Sparrows were feeding in a … Continue reading

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at last: something worth writing about

I recently attended a clothing-optional pool party organized by my local nudist group. I’d gotten into Buddhism not long before, and this was partly an experiment for me in seeing how my embracing that philosophy would affect my thoughts, impulses, … Continue reading

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